“Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
Now this quote right here, is literal GOLD. It expresses how many of us are so quick to criticize, to complain before understanding, and condemn before forgiving. Why is that?
Because it’s easier to blame external forces instead of turning inward and being accountable for our life decisions?
Because it’s more simple to just complain about something instead of accepting it?
Because it takes less effort to condemn others rather than to praise them?
It is a lot easier to just blame the world for our problems and not take accountability for the choices we make. Trust me, I know. I’ve done it countless times in my life. And you know what it’s done for me? NOTHING. Absolutely nothing. It made me run from my problems even further and end up in an even deeper hole than I began with. It caused me to go into depression and have severe anxiety. It made me feel empty.
Why is that?
Because I chose to take the cheap route. It was weak. That’s why anyone and everyone can and will do it. Nobody wants to take blame for their life situation, because it’s hard.
It takes undeniable strength and courage to take responsibility for our actions. It takes resilience to be an understanding person. It requires true character to forgive someone for their mistakes. Because at the end of the day you will never be able to choose anyone else’s actions, but you will always be able to choose your reaction. We think others are the reason we feel a certain way, but that’s only IF we let them. It’s a choice. It takes immense self-control to choose the life we want to live and set boundaries while doing it. It may not seem that way-I know. However, it’s the absolute truth. We are always in control of how we respond to a given situation and the meaning that we attach to it.
I hope that you all will keep this concept in mind the next time you want to react to something. Or the next time you want to blame the world for your problems. And the next time you want to criticize someone instead of complimenting them.
I hope everyone remembers their strength and applies it to any adversities they have in the future. You all have the power, use it.
Healthy Habits to support a healthy happy life!
With so much love,